Some of you are at a different stage in your life and my actions won't work for you. That's the beauty of this process - you can apply it to anything and go from being overwhelmed to being in control. Pick your own actions. Only you know what will work best for you. Don't look for an expert to tell you what to do. Be your own expert.
Do write down your actions and look at them at least once a week. Do mark your six week deadline on your calendar. Do review how you are doing at least once a week. I printed out a calendar from here to mark my deadline and add daily notes.
Good Health. This breaks down into three categories - diet, exercise and medical. I commit to:
- Reserve chocolate and beer for special occasions.
- Reduce after dinner snacking to no more than twice a week.
- Drink more water.
- Start an at-home exercise program and exercise at least 3 times a week.
- Find a new primary care physician and get a physical.
Better Mom. My three girls are so very different. It makes it difficult to create an action list that applies to all three. But here goes nothing. I commit to:
- Play a game with my kids at least twice a week.
- Spend time listening to my kids one-on-one daily.
- Do chores with my kids. This one may sound strange. But I think it's a great way to teach them gratitude and appreciation along with life skills.
Better Wife. I bet my husband could add a few to this list and all of them would start in the bedroom. But this is my list, he can write his own. (smile) I commit to:
- Turn off the TV and do what he wants to do at least twice a week.
- Plan with him. My husband is a big planner. He plans for our retirement, he plans our vacations, he plans our future. I tend to stay out of it and that bothers him. I'm going to make an effort to plan with him.
- Communicate in a more meaningful way. I send my husband computer invites for our kid's activities and review the weekly schedule with him every Monday. That's great. But we need to spend more time talking about the heart of our family rather than the mechanics of our family.
Save Money. I could come up with a million in this area. Some are a one time action rather than a new habit.
For example, unsubscribing from shopping website newsletters. Just today I received emails from Michael's, Kohls, Bath and Body Works, Woot, Groupon, World Market, Five Below, Charming Charlie and Victoria's Secret. If you use the coupons, set up an email rule and send them to a sub-folder. Only go into the folder if you really do need to buy an item to look for a coupon. You will avoid the daily temptation. Better yet, sign up for a balance notification from your bank, then you can enjoy seeing the money stay in your account!
Looking for actions that could become new habits, I commit to:
- Lower my spending threshold. We all have a spending threshold. It's the amount we don't give much thought to spending. Mine is $20. If I see a shirt I like and it's $20, I get it. I'm going to lower that threshold to $10, and think harder on those $20 purchases. Doesn't sound like much, but that is something I can do frequently and consistently that over time could make a big difference.
- Start couponing. If you want to do this one along with me, subscribe to your Sunday paper and/or ask friends and family if you can have their Sunday coupons. Write the date on the coupon circulars and hold on to them.
- Plan out meals so that we don't eat out as much.
- Only allow myself one item not on my shopping list. I could say no items not on the list, but that's not realistic for me.
- Don't buy any clothes or shoes that I have not tried on. This rules out internet shopping and impulse buys when I am out with the kids and don't have time to try things on.
Advocate for Dyslexia. This goal may be too big for six weeks. It's intimidating. This experiment might prove that you can apply this method to larger goals, or may prove to be an utter failure. Let's find out. I commit to:
- Read at least two books on the topic. I've watched documentaries and read several books, but I could do with a refresher.
- Develop a presentation. One of the goals I have regarding Dyslexia is to educate. I've been shocked at the number of educators we have encountered that don't understand Dyslexia.
- Find somewhere to present said presentation. I'd like to start with my kids' schools and see if I can develop some contacts to help me reach out from there.
Long post today. Thanks for reading. It is your gift to me.