When you can't change the inevitable - change your attitude instead! It will make all the difference. Easier said then done, right? Things worth doing are never easy. Consider for just a moment what a great lesson this is to model and teach to your kids. It truly can be life changing. Charles Swindoll, Author of Grace Awakening, says "Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than what people do or say. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill."
Attitude is all about our inner dialog. Those things we tell ourselves. If we face a challenge thinking I can't do this, rather than, I can be strong, we make the challenge that much harder to accomplish. If we have an unpleasant day ahead, focusing on the miserable parts make it seem that much worse. We have these powerful brains that let us shape our perceptions. We just have to use that in the right way. So how do you improve your attitude?
1. Be Creative. Look for ways to make unpleasant tasks fun. Put your favorite music on when faced with a tedious task like house cleaning. Play road trip games in the car.
2. Invite Friends Along. A day with friends is always fun. Even it your are just sitting around waiting. I had to go for an extended gestational diabetes test. No one would look forward to fasting, chugging a sugary drink, having blood drawn all day and hanging out at a hospital. But I invited some family and we made a card party out of it. Time flew and we laughed a lot!
3. Change Your Frame of Mind. My entire family is more adventurous than me. I'm happy reading a book with a cup of tea. I married a man who likes to get off the beaten path. He likes to hike, ski, bike ride, do triathlons. He planned our honeymoon. Day one we got up before dawn to ride a bike down a volcano. Day two we got up before dawn to go scuba diving. Day three we got up before dawn to hike. You get the idea. I had to learn to stop telling myself "I can't do this, I haven't been on a bike in a year." And to tell myself, "Just think how you will be able to smell the flowers on a bike rather than in a car." Sixteen years into this marriage and I am so glad that I married an adventurous man. It's taught me that I can do more than I thought I could, and how to change my frame of mind.
4. Stop Complaining and Start Counting Your Blessings. This almost feels silly while you are doing it. But it does work. Be thankful for the piles of laundry, it means you have a loving family. Be thankful for the homework, it gives you time with your child. Be thankful for the dentist and doctors visits, they help us live fuller and longer lives.
5. Visualize the Outcome You Want. The kids are dragging me skiing tonight. I'd rather catch up on Outlander. But If I picture myself laughing and enjoying being outside, rather than falling and freezing, I know I will have a better time tonight.
"A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results." - Wade Bogs.
Wade is right. Changing your attitude is the easiest way to change your life. Give it a try and let me know in the comments how it goes!